I’ve never had a problem with drifting off to sleep but ever since I can remember I would always tell my family the strange dreams I had the night before, and when I hit my teenage years I started to get lucid dreams nearly every night. However, it wasn’t until five years ago I started to experience night terrors and sleep paralysis.
A reoccurring night terror for me is what Jamie and I refer to as ‘the man in the room’. I often wake up screaming and shaking Jamie because I’m so convinced there is a man at the end of the bed or standing in the doorway, only to realise a few minutes later when I have come round to reality that actually there is no one there. The whole experience is extremely stressful and in the days after I end up worrying about going to bed especially if Jamie is out and I know I will be sleeping alone that evening.
When I go on holiday or I’m sleeping in an unfamiliar environment, I’m guaranteed to experience a night terror. It is as if I have a subconscious anxiety about sleeping in a different bed which results in multiple night terrors throughout the evening. It is a sleeping disorder that not only affects me but unfortunately affects Jamie as well and it feels as if I can’t do anything to stop it.
More recently I have had episodes of sleep paralysis. Sleep paralysis occurs during the stages of falling asleep or waking up and during these episodes, you find yourself temporarily unable to move or speak. You are aware of what is happening but your body is asleep. I usually find myself waking up choking or gasping for air because it feels like someone is strangling me or pushing down on my chest. It only lasts a few minutes but I can honestly say it is much more terrifying than any night terror I have ever had.
I’m not sure if this sleep paralysis or my night terrors will ever go away but here are some tips for coping with these sleeping disorders:
- Avoid caffeine before bedtime.
- Try and exercise during the day or even go for a walk before or after work.
- Create a bedtime ritual. I like to have a bath, use a facemask or a nice cleanser and then use a nice body moisturiser. Lately, I have been using the Lush lavender moisturiser called Sleepy which smells gorgeous and it is so relaxing.
- Consider wearing a sleeping mask or pop earplugs in to avoid any outside noises or shadows waking you up.
- Try and turn your phone off before bedtime to allow you to unwind and not think about social media or work.
- Use essential oils or create a sleep pillow. I love sprinkling essential oils onto a piece of fabric you can even use a cotton muslin bag and fill it with dried lavender, rose petals or chamomile to create a herbal sleep pillow.
- Try yoga or meditation. It can really help relax your mind and muscles.
- Consult a doctor – if you feel that you are really struggling to get to sleep then I recommend visiting a doctor and seeing how they can help.
Have you ever experienced night terrors or any other sleep disorder? Do you have any tips you want to share? Leave a comment below!
This sounds so scary! I’ve always suffered with bad dreams and nightmares since I was a kid but nothing like what you have. The tips sound really good and I hope it eventually goes away for you xxx
Oh no, nightmares are just terrifying and Thank you beckie! xxx
That sounds scary. I’m aware that night terrors are common in children, but I hadn’t realised they could continue when you’re an adult. That’s good that you’ve found some coping strategies.
I actually never suffered with them as a child it is something I have unfortunately developed in my adult life, strange isn’t it! xx
I know this is old but wanted to post as i wondered if you were yet to solve your nighr terrors? Your terrors sound as if you are describing mine. Hearing doors, someone at the end of the bed, being covered in spiders. Sometimes even that i am in a full fight. It is my husband i really feel for as i have physically hurt him on numerous occasions where i have attacked him in my sleep. But back to my opener, i ask as having suffered for about 16 years i’m still sat here typing this at midnight because im scared to fall asleep!
I must admit they have got better these past 5 months. I had tried everything including counselling, hypnotherapy and all sorts. I have found that having peace of mind is so important. Meditation and Yoga have really helped me and also having a small dim lamp next to the bed e.g. a salt lamp. On the rare occasion, I do get them I flick it on and just try and unwind. I would also recommend trying not to worry about going to sleep. I know it’s hard but I think it can make it worse if you fill yourself with anxiety before bed. I have developed a sort of mantra in knowing that nothing can hurt me and if I do wake up my partner insists I wake him up too so he can help me go back to sleep so I don’t sit there and feel shit by myself. A rather large sacrifice but an extremely comforting one for me. Hope you find some peace soon! xx
My girlfriend had this two nights ago. She woke up screaming ( loud and scary like in horror movie). I woke up screaming too, because of the shock, she saw me and went out of the room, went out ot the apartament 7 flours, ane outside in the rain. I was going after her shocked and screaming stop stop, calling her name. She went and hide in some corner or the building crying. I went to see whar was happening and she started yelling at me asking whats the matter with me. I tried to catch her arms she screamed like I was trying to kill her: She was asking why is yout voice like that. I rielised that i was having a very deep voice (still dont know why) probably from the shock. Than i started to change my voice, she went out from that corner. I convinced her to go back up, as we started to climb the stairs she started screaming again, and praying not to kill her, i grabed her and didnt let her go, than she came with me. We went to the living room, she was a bit more calmc, but still scared frome me. Than we tried to sleep she was looking at me and being scared. I said lets continue the day, so woke up, ane went straight to neuropsikatric hospital. The doctor there just gave us some diazepam. Last night I didnt sleep till 6, waking her up every ouer. Tonight she dont want to sleep at all. I think this is the worst story that you heard.
Please help
Hi Georgia,
I know this is old, but do you still have them? I am 27 and they started when I was almost 20. I have tried everything, I can definitely relate to what you have written. Have you got any new advice? I noticed that if I eat fatty foods I have the 100% of possibility to have them.
Thank you so much.
I have the same thing happen about once a year the past few years It is the scariest thing and afterwards the fear of going to sleep is the worst. Thanks for the tips.